If you’ve been in a long-term relationship which has ended due to bereavement or separation, it’s tough getting used to being on your own. I remember the first time I went out for a long walk on my own, 2 months after Steve died.
I was at a Yoga Retreat close to the picturesque Nene Valley. We had free time on Saturday afternoon and I decided to take my video camera and go out for a long walk. I hadn’t gone too far when I was struck by all the couples walking by, chatting, holding hands and although I confidently said, “Good Afternoon” to each one, as they walked by I could feel the emotion rising.
I hoped that each couple appreciated how lucky they were. So often we take for granted how much we have until it’s taken away. I love the song by Passenger, Let Her Go which reminds me of this feeling.
On that afternoon my loss was intense but I also found myself talking to Steve as I walked through the woods carpeted with bluebells. I told him that he would love the green shades of the fresh leaves, the light reflecting on the water and the formations of birds flying overhead. I’m not saying it was easy but I found it was a good way to let go of the sadness by connecting with him.
I like to walk on my own now. They say the first step is the hardest and after that, you just keep going. That’s certainly been true in my experience.
Give it a Try
If you’ve got a dog, then you have a reason to go out each day, if not get a Fit-bit or download a walking app on your phone. Aim for consistency, set aside one or two days a week as your walking days and give yourself a target. Walking is good for your body and mind. If you feel self-conscious, wear headphones and listen to your favourite music or podcast.
Do you go out for walks on your own?
What’s it like for you? Write your comments below