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Elene Marsden

Elene's Blog:

My husband died last year, it was an incredible 46 year romance and getting over his death was a challenge. This blog is all about how I dealt with his death, the strategies I used, the tools I discovered, the opportunities I embraced and the new preloved life I have built


Featured posts:

Featured
Preloved Chica Helps Promote Designer Pop Up Shop for Local Hospice
Feb 1, 2019
Preloved Chica Helps Promote Designer Pop Up Shop for Local Hospice
Feb 1, 2019
Feb 1, 2019
Goodbye Red January Hello February
Feb 1, 2019
Goodbye Red January Hello February
Feb 1, 2019
Feb 1, 2019
Happy New Uncertain Year
Jan 24, 2019
Happy New Uncertain Year
Jan 24, 2019
Jan 24, 2019
Meditation Occupies My Mind
Jan 11, 2019
Meditation Occupies My Mind
Jan 11, 2019
Jan 11, 2019
A Silver Lining This Christmas
Jan 2, 2019
A Silver Lining This Christmas
Jan 2, 2019
Jan 2, 2019
Dec 24, 2018
Inspiring Books
Dec 24, 2018
Dec 24, 2018
Solo Festival Goer
Dec 20, 2018
Solo Festival Goer
Dec 20, 2018
Dec 20, 2018
The First Year is The Hardest
Dec 17, 2018
The First Year is The Hardest
Dec 17, 2018
Dec 17, 2018
To Meet Up or Not To Meet Up
Dec 10, 2018
To Meet Up or Not To Meet Up
Dec 10, 2018
Dec 10, 2018
NLP- Great Strategies For Change
Dec 7, 2018
NLP- Great Strategies For Change
Dec 7, 2018
Dec 7, 2018

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Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀ #designerbags ⠀ #designershoes ⠀ #designerdresses ⠀ #savethequeen ⠀ #missoni ⠀ And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀⠀
#designerbags ⠀⠀
#designershoes ⠀⠀
#designerdresses ⠀⠀
#savethequeen ⠀⠀
#missoni ⠀⠀
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀⠀ @prelovedchica ⠀⠀ #designerbags ⠀⠀ #designershoes ⠀⠀ #designerdresses ⠀⠀ #savethequeen ⠀⠀ #missoni ⠀⠀ And more
Shine your little light on me. Ambient lighting. Electric company
@prelovedchica 
#shine
#light
Shine your little light on me. Ambient lighting. Electric company @prelovedchica #shine #light
Pesto tomato salad. Blessed to have such lovely neighbours. Fun night guys.
@prelovedchica 
#pesto #sakad
Pesto tomato salad. Blessed to have such lovely neighbours. Fun night guys. @prelovedchica #pesto #sakad
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. 
@prelovedchica 
#designerbags 
#designershoes 
#designerdresses 
#savethequeen 
#missoni 
And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. @prelovedchica #designerbags #designershoes #designerdresses #savethequeen #missoni And more
Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀
#designerbags ⠀
#designershoes ⠀
#designerdresses ⠀
#savethequeen ⠀
#missoni ⠀
And more Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. ⠀⠀
@prelovedchica ⠀⠀
#designerbags ⠀⠀
#designershoes ⠀⠀
#designerdresses ⠀⠀
#savethequeen ⠀⠀
#missoni ⠀⠀
And more Shine your little light on me. Ambient lighting. Electric company
@prelovedchica 
#shine
#light Pesto tomato salad. Blessed to have such lovely neighbours. Fun night guys.
@prelovedchica 
#pesto #sakad Chris Wix's preloved designer clothes for sale from 18th Feb. Event details on my bio. Proceeds to @stelizabethhospice. If you're in town come on down. Over 500 items for sale. 
@prelovedchica 
#designerbags 
#designershoes 
#designerdresses 
#savethequeen 
#missoni 
And more
Steve Marsden's Photo

Talking To Loved Ones

November 26, 2018 in Helped Me

This weekend would have been my 40th ruby wedding anniversary. Steve and I got married in 1978, we made it to our 38th anniversary but no further. I wanted to remember my anniversary, so I decided to visit the woodland site where Steve is buried. I normally go with other people, usually my middle son because he doesn’t drive. The site in Wrabness, overlooks the River Stour, a beautiful location.

I set off at 11.00 am, in glorious sunshine, there was just one other couple talking in the car park but they were soon on their way. I had the whole place to myself.

The oak tree planted on Steve’s grave last October looked very dry, with the drought this summer I’m not sure if it will survive. I poured some of the water I had over the roots. I’d also brought a toilet roll with me, if I’m going to cry I don’t want to run out of tissues.

I sat down cross-legged in front of Steve’s grave and started talking. It was the first time in 18 months I talked to Steve for over an hour. There was just so much to tell him and I’m normally restrained by the people I have with me.

I told him all the family news, explained how well his mum and dad were doing, my holiday experiences in Sicily, my Airbnb guests, my plans to write blog posts about my life and lots of little things like how the garden was growing and news about life in Ipswich.

On the car journey home I felt emotionally drained but my connection to Steve was stronger. I made a pact to talk more to Steve, to my favourite picture of him which I often kiss before I go to bed.

I’ve done this a few times and it's really powerful. Other people say they have shrines set up in their homes where they can talk to their loved ones. The hardest thing I found was when you ask a question, there’s silence.

It's often in that place of silence, the answer will come.

Perhaps this Anthony Robbins quote provides an explanation.

“All I need is within me now”
— Anthony Robbins

Give it a Try

Do you talk to your deceased loved one? If you’ve never tried it, find a place where you won’t be disturbed take a photo or something else that has a strong connection, turn off your phone and start talking.

What gives you comfort?

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