Steve was a huge fan of NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, an approach to communication, personal development and psychotherapy created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in California in the 1970s.
Steve was an NLP Master Practitioner. He ran an NLP MeetUp group in Ipswich for 10 years. He lived and breathed the principles and helped so many people to live fuller lives by freely sharing his NLP knowledge.
In 2001, for Christmas, Steve bought me a 20-day NLP Practitioners course in London, it was a remarkable present. Ian McDermott was the lead trainer on the course. Ian's book called NLP, The Fundamentals provides an excellent overview if you’d like to learn more.
NLP changed my life because after the first module, all about well-formed outcomes and goal setting, I decided to leave my secure teaching job to set up in business.
NLP has always in the back of my mind and when Steve died I decided to retake the course. I knew it would be a good way to be close to him and at the same time pick up strategies for dealing with grief.
Many of the newest NLP training courses include an element of Neuroscience which I'm also interested in. With a 30% discount for existing practitioners and 4 days of Neuroscience I knew I had to sign up.
For 3 days every month last Autumn, I went up to London for training. The course was excellent and engaging. We were given extra long lunches to get to know people and to talk over what we'd learned. I made some amazing new friends, an extra benefit.
The Meta Mirror is still one of my favourite strategies. I had a concern about one of my family members and it really helped me see the issue from her perspective and to look back on how I could behave differently in light of that experience. I loved the work we did on our Other Than Conscious Mind. It’s when you get to talk to those parts of you that are deep within but control your thoughts and actions. Even now if I’m unsure what to do I’ll just ask. It sounds a bit wacky but it works for me.
Give it a Try
Every year there’s an NLP conference where you get to meet lots of trainers, practitioners and schools offering courses. If you’re interested in finding out more about NLP, I would recommend this conference as a good place to start.
I studied with ITS, International Teaching Seminars https://itsnlp.com/
Have you ever attended an NLP workshop? Was it useful?