I’ve always felt that Steve lives on through his children and his grandson, but through his sourdough starter too? I had no idea.Read More
The end of an wonderful era. Thanks to the Duke of York for a wonderful 2 years of great music and good craic. I will miss you.Read More
I’m growing sweetcorn and lots of it, on my allotment. If you live nearby I’m planning to share the fruits of my labour with friends. I have no idea whether sweetcorn will grow in sandy soils, let’s see.Read More
Touch is so important and difficult if you’re not in a loving relationship. Well, here’s how I’ve filled the gap with a Hawaiian massage called LomiLomi. I’d love to know what you think about my story.Read More
Choosing to be a million miles away from the memory of my husband’s death.Read More
When St Elizabeth’s Hospice asked me to help Phil Wix promote his pop-up shop to sell his wife’s designer clothes, I jumped at the chance. I also know how important it is to raise money for the hospice as they only receive a small fraction of money from the government, the rest comes from donations.Read More
A whole month alcohol free plus 31 days of activity part of Suffolk Mind’s #redjanuary. Watch out February, here I comeRead More
My 3 boys had experiences as gifts this year. Ryan made a knife at a Suffolk forge, Lyle recorded a song at Dove Studio and Richard joined a 10 week Jaffa running courseRead More
I picked up meditation again and throughout 2018 I managed to meditate most days. I find it a wonderful sanctuary, a place where I can relax and let my tears flow. I’m looking forward to carrying on this practice into 2019Read More
Mystery case of wine from Naked Wines is like a gift from beyond.Read More
I picked up Shine by Andy Cope and Gavin Oates at Stansted airport in June en route to Sardinia.
My copy is now rather dog-eared because I took it everywhere with me, the beach, the restaurants, the bars. Whenever I had 5 minutes to spare I read one of the short chapters. It’s full of humour and strategies on how to live a full life. I remember reading the chapter called That Wee Piece of Magic, explaining how we’ve lost the childlike art of playfulness. The writers pose questions like when did you last play with a cardboard box?
Not exactly relevant but I’m reminded of the time my 28 year old son jumped out of a cardboard box to surprise me on my birthday. It was such an emotional time in so many ways, just a few days before my husband was diagnosed with cancer
I was reading on the beach at Giardini Naxos, when I looked up to see 4 children with beach towels tied around their necks like capes, jumping off upturned boats, racing around like superheroes. I’d just witness the perfect demonstration of let’s pretend play that children enjoy so much. The authors ask, When did you decide that today was the day you decided to stop playing, to stop approaching everyday situations with playfulness, creativity and joy?
It’s a wonderfully simple, fun and thought-provoking book to read. I still think about many of the ideas in this book.
My 4 favourite ideas
See the things that happen to you as interesting plot twists, weave them into the story of your life rather than talk about the disaster, the dramas that turn you into one of life’s victims
There are only 3 things important for a healthy life, to eat well, move more and sleep enough
Put on your shine tinted spectacles and see the world bathed in a clear shiny light
Don’t half-ass anything, always use your full ass
Give it a Try
For the price of 3 Starbucks coffees, I’d recommend Shine. I’m sure you’ll get something from it. What’s your favourite book that makes you feel all warm and glowing inside?
I love going to festivals, Steve and I went to WOMAD every year. This year I decided to go to Folk East on my own. This is what happened.Read More
The first year is by far the hardest but in the second year, the cloud around you thins and you begin to make sense of this different life you’re leadingRead More
Going out on your own after a bereavement is no walk in the park. Check out #MeetpMondays as a great way to meet new friends over a cup of coffeeRead More
NLP training is great way to learn new life strategies. An added bonus for me is that I made some great friends at the same time.Read More
2 oak trees were planted for Steve in October 2017. The first one was planted at Oakfield Wood, Wrabness, where Steve is buried. The other tree I bought in Cambridge. I arranged for the tree to be delivered to Porthkerry Country Park where Steve and I grew up and where his parents still live.
2018 has been a year of extreme weather, the Beast from the East, a fierce cold snap hit the UK in February followed by one of the driest summers on record. After 60 days of zero rain, I received a call from my mother-in-law to say Steve’s oak tree was struggling. I was planning to visit Barry that weekend and prepared for the worst I found the tree was struggling, all the leaves were dry and the earth around the base of the tree had deep cracks.
The Country Park Wardens were looking after so many freshly planted trees that they just couldn’t keep up with the watering. Whilst I was visiting the tree, I recorded a video asking for help from my Barry friends.
The response was incredible, friends were taking large containers of water to the park. They even obtained special permission from the wardens to use the car park without paying fees. One friend, Peter Barker took manure, fertiliser and a gallon container of water in an effort to help. The video he recorded by the tree made me cry.
A couple I know were visiting Barry for the first time when they heard about requests for help with watering. They found Steve’s tree and even bumped into one of my Barry friends, Bev Jones who was also watering the tree at the same time.
In life, Steve brought people together and so he did in death
We don’t know yet if either tree will survive but I do know that love and care has been shown for Steve’s oak tree at Porthkerry Country Park.
Give it a Try
Some people plant trees, buy memorial benches or one friend made a wildflower garden with its own bug hotel in memory of his wife, Lynne Dyas Wolff, one of my dear school friends.
There are so many ways to commemorate someone’s life. What ideas have you heard?
Sometimes you just need to talk. And from the silence often comes the answers you needRead More
I’ve been a presenter on ICR Ipswich Community Radio for almost a year. Learning radio presenting skills and meeting so many new people has helped with my grieving journey.Read More
The 5 Invitations by Frank Ostaseki was so inspiring. I’ve decided I want to live my life fully and my trip to Machu Picchu is an example of “Don’t Wait”Read More
My kintsugi inspired heart shaped tattoo reminds me of love and transformation.Read More